My transition from cluttered to simple living.

Friday, April 8, 2011

Life is Just One Big Classroom...

My personal belief is, that we are placed here...wherever "here" is learn a lesson or two.  I don't believe that bad things are sent to test us...however, I believe that we are tested on how we deal with life's curve balls.  I believe that every encounter with joy and sorrow hides a lesson of some sort.

I have been fortunate to reach the autumn of my life.  For me, it is a time of reflection.  I think back over the years, and ask myself repeatedly, "Did I handle that right?"  "What could I have done better?"  What lesson was hidden in fabric of that encounter...disaster...relationship?

I believe that many times I did the best I could with the knowledge that I had.  I believe that I am older now, and that I know better, and now do better.  My friend has often said, "Old heads are not borne on young bodies."  I thought of that statement many times when raising three children.  I think of it now, as I reflect on the paths I have chosen, and the way I have handled relationships.

We have struggled over the past year carrying two mortgages.  Would I make the choice that I did last summer to purchase this home in the quick manner that I did,  if faced with the same decision?  Yes!  Yes!  Yes!  What have I learned?  I have learned the value of a buck.  I have learned patience.  I have learned to be humble.  I have also learned that if you have enough to get by, that there is always something to share.

There is another side to this coin, however.  At times I ask myself if was foolish to want more.  Perhaps I should have been happy with what I had..which is a lot more than others have.  I certainly was comfortable, surrounded by my accumulations.  That same question is what motivated me to look at a smaller home though.  Living in a 2500 square foot home at this point in my life was comparable to driving a school bus, without passengers,  to work every day.

I think that what I wanted was not more...but less.

So...  I guess I will always mull over those questions..."Did I do it right?  Did I get it right?  What could I have done differently?  Where and what was the lesson?"


  1. I always second guess my own choices, too, Wendy, wondering if I made the right decision. Too late, as many commenters reminded me. I've made peace with my already made decisions.

  2. I have been feeling some of the same things here about the size of our home and shop versus our age and maintenance required. My husband is not on the same page, not the same book, not even the same library about this issue... While I am looking forward (maybe too far forward) he is trying to capture now. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and feelings - the bus analogy is great!